Psychosocial Health

Self-esteem and Self-confidence

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is a person’s subjective evaluation of his or her own worth. It also serves as an index of our mental health. People with healthy self-esteem tend to feel positive about themselves and are more able to accept their own weaknesses. They are more able to handle challenging situations.

What affects our self-esteem?

Self-esteem development begins in childhood. Evaluations from parents, teachers, schoolmates and friends can affect the ways we perceive ourselves.

How is your self-esteem?

Ask yourself:

  1. Do you like yourself?
  2. Are you satisfied with yourself?
  3. Are you willing to improve your weakness?
  4. Do you think you are useless?
  5. Do you think you are unlikeable?
  6. Do you often feel inferior to others?
  7. Are you confident in achieving your goals?
  8. Do you avoid new challenges due to fear of failure?

Ways to build self-esteem

  1. Recognise what you are good at
    Make a list of your strengths and achievements (e.g. you are honest, sincere and good at sport, etc.). Put at the list to remind yourself of your strengths and qualities.
  2. Recognise your value
    Everyone is good at something. Everyone is unique and special.
  3. Positive self-talk
    Try to replace negative evaluations of yourself with positive thoughts and remind yourself: "Although I encounter difficulties, I am able to cope."
  4. Develop and achieve your potential
    Try new things and take on challenges. Set yourself a goal and participate in different activities like Scouts, outward bound training, interest groups and community voluntary services. These can help you understand your abilities, interests and talents.
  5. Improve your weaknesses
    Nobody is perfect. Have reasonable expectation for yourself and set achievable goals to improve your weaknesses.
  6. Stop comparing yourself to others
    Comparison to others is endless and it only hurts your self-esteem. Instead, try to set achievable goals and make persistent efforts to improve yourself.
  7. Do not give up but shape up
    Do not look at yourself as loser even when you fail. We can learn from mistakes, evaluate our performance, make improvements, rise to new challenges and strive to get better results next time.
  8. Learn from your mistakes
    Everyone makes mistakes. The most important thing is to learn from mistakes and regard failure as an opportunity for growth. Acknowledge your mistakes, and have the courage to correct them, and don't repeat the same mistakes.
  9. Be kind to yourself
    Take good care of yourself and lead a healthy and fruitful life. Do not engage in actions that are harmful to health or illegal.
  10. Establish good interpersonal relationships
    Establish good relationships with your parents, family members, teachers and friends. Respect and trust each other. When you encounter difficulties, you can talk to them and share your feelings. Let them provide you with support and encouragement.

(Revised in April 2021)

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